This week I built a new bed frame in my room, which feels a little counter intuitive because I am moving to a different country in five short days. But I got it for free and it’s a cute little thing made of white steel with a decorative footboard and a headboard. So I’m enjoying it for the last week I live at home.
Appreciating what you have
I was in my room packing the other night, admiring my new bed and twinkle light set up, and felt kinda sad about how comfortable the space is and that I won’t be able to enjoy it much longer. And then I remembered that when I’m no longer here it’ll be because I’m doing other exciting things – I won’t be trading my life for something less wonderful.
I’ve been saying a lot of goodbyes lately, having coffee dates and spending quality time with people for what may be the last time for months or in some cases longer. There is nothing like leaving home that makes me apprecaite all of the people in my life. It’s okay to be sad about saying goodbye (or see you soon) to the people and places near and dear to my heart while not losing sight of the wonderful things that lay ahead.
C. S. Lewis once wrote “There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” and while I don’t know if better is the right word to describe my future, I think equally lovely would work. Exploring, learning, and meeting new people; these are all things that make leaving home worth while.
Looking forward to what is coming next
Changes can be daunting, there is always that adjustment period, maybe a few growing pains, but I think it’s good to mix things up every once in a while and try new things. My new home will be by the ocean, and apparently there are surfboards waiting for me. I’ve never surfed before, it might be a disaster; but it might be really cool and fun and my new favourite thing. The only way I’ll find out is trying, and I’m really looking forward to it (even if it means face planting off the board).
The future holds new adventures and hopeful beginnings. And when I think about why I’m going, what I’m doing this for, and the values that guide my actions, it gets me excited for what is coming.
I’ve been thinking a lot about the future as I prepare for this move – obviously there is a lot of excitement, managing travel logistics, all that fun stuff. Living in Florida for a few months (skipping a Canadian winter, yayay!) will be a wonderful adventure that I am sure will fly by – and before I know it I’ll be packing my bags to come back home. The future is always changing as we move forward through it which is why I think it’s important to also stay present…
Happy in the moment
Finding hope in the future is important but when we focus so much on the future that we miss being content in the moments we inhabit. Thich Nhat Hanh wrote “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way” and I wholeheartedly agree. I’m a firm believer that if you’re not happy where you are, you won’t be happy anywhere else. Being able to be present and find ways to be happy is important and the intentional action of being present is a habit we build not a switch we turn on and off. If we are always focusing on what is coming next, when the thing we’ve been looking forward to finally comes we might miss it by focusing on the thing after that.
I could be sitting around fretting about missing home, or I could be wishing I was already on my way to the airport. But I’m trying my best to savour the days I have left in my hometown and stay present in the moment with the people I’ll be missing before I know it. And when I get to Florida I hope I can stay present and immerse myself in that life and cherish ever moment while I get to live it.
What I’m trying to say is that we can be sad about leaving what feels comfortable and be afraid of change – but pursuing both provides valuable opportunities for growth and new experiences. And the future holds hope – but if we look forward too often we can look past what is right in front of us and miss the moments we’re in. To quote the ever iconic Ferris Bueller; “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it”.