I’ve been thinking about the significance our words can have in our relationships. Especially words of encouragement. I think “speaking truth” looks like sharing truth the someone is loved, and valuable and guides you toward being your best self. Speaking truth into someone’s life is not the same as giving advice. It’s not telling someone what they should do or who they should be or … Continue reading Speaking Truth
Last fall I sent one of my friends a text. It was about something a guy had done to get my attention and I had thought it was cute. But it was also a bit of a lamentation that the smallest amount of effort seemed worth celebrating. I realized the bar was set too low. And I don’t just mean in my dating life, but … Continue reading Raise the Damn Bar
One of the harder things to accept about being open and vulnerable is that we can still get hurt. To be totally honest, it is sort of the ugly side of vulnerability that we like to glaze over in the self-help books. But it is true, we can open up, be vulnerable and fall on our ass. Yet, despite that reality, I believe it is valuable to keep making the choice to be open to that possibility anyway. Continue reading Defensive Living
When we find ourselves feeling lonely it’s not a simple as not having friends around. Loneliness and community might seem like opposites, but we don’t simply choose one or the other, we have a lot of other choices that we come to first. Such as choosing fear of not being accepted or liked over being vulnerable. Or choosing to isolate ourselves from others. It’s smaller, everyday choices that shape what our relationships look like. Continue reading All The Lonely People
If one area is feeling off, it can shake your whole life up quite a bit. Don’t underestimate how taking care of little issues in your life can make a big positive impact in many areas.
Finally, don’t shy away from trusting yourself to know what is right for you. I’ve learned a lot in the past year, but maybe nothing more empowering than learning to trust my own choices and feelings. Continue reading A Heart Of Glass Turns One
So maybe the biggest difference between a house and a home, is that a home isn’t always a building, sometimes it is the people who make places special to begin with. Continue reading Things That Feel Like Home
First impressions can be awkward, we can be nervous meeting for the first time or trying so hard to make a good impression that our personality doesn’t get to shine through. Someone might make a great first impression and a bad second. We could make a terrible first impression and a great fifth. The point is that sometimes it takes longer to get to know people. It takes patience and seeing past differences or bad impressions and a belief that people are good. Continue reading From the First Impression to the Last