None But Jesus

This summer has been so good in many ways, and challenging in others. I’ve enjoyed a lot of leisure time with friends and family, but I have also struggled with not having clear plans. There has been this nagging feeling like things just weren’t falling into place how I wanted them to.

Although I can’t believe it’s already August, there were times that the uncertainty of things made this summer drag on. Sometimes our seasons fluctuate between tumultuous transitions and other times it is comfortable coasting. A lesson I’ve been learning though, is that no matter the season or what is happening in your life, you can find peace.


I’ve been blessed that a tangible vision of what life will look like for me in the coming months has come together recently. But along with that came making some decisions too- which is maybe even harder for me than not having plans. I can be a very indecisive person who asks my friends for their opinions on a lot of things.

With having some choices to make about the future, I’ve been turning to all of my friends and family for advice. I even called Bob Goff to get his take on things. With all this advice swirling in my head, I had a realization about what I was missing in my decision making.

Allow me to set the scene; I was driving home from bible study last week, and one my friends offered to host a campfire at her home in the country. I got a little lost on my way there, so on the drive back I was very attentive to make sure I didn’t lose my way again. Without street lights or other cars on the road the country roads were extremely dark.

In the darkness I could only see as far as my high-beams, but I trusted that my GPS was guiding me the correct way, and the left turn in 700 meters would be there even I couldn’t see it yet. The experience felt like a perfect illustration of how this summer often felt, motoring along trying to trust that even though I couldn’t see much of the road ahead, things would workout. The twists and turns I needed to make would come and I could trust the God knew the road I was going down even if it was unfamiliar to me.

And that is when it hit me, I realized that I ask for advice a whole lot more that I’ve prayed for guidance recently. I wasn’t asking God what I should do, I was actually asking pretty much everyone else. In my own life, the choices that I feel most confident in and at peace about, are ones that I have prayed about and that I feel get me closer to the path I am called to be on. It doesn’t mean I know exactly what direction I’ll go but I’m trusting that God’s plan is still there, just past the high-beams of my own understanding.

My backseat could have been packed like a clown car with the people I turn to for advice. My friends, my brother and his wife, my parents, the author’s of all the books I love. If I had all of them in my car navigating me home it would have taken twice as long to get there, if I was even able to make sense of layers of voices speaking to me. Sometimes advice is good, especially from someone you respect, but it is also easy to become confused by so many opinions rather than the one that actually knows where I need to go.

It is easier to ask for advice than to be still and ask for guidance. If you struggle with feeling indecisive you might relate to the feeling of wanting answers handed to you. But wrestling with choices is important, and trusting in the power of stillness and praying for guidance is too. It’s okay to not fully see the road ahead of you, it’s okay if things aren’t falling into place how you hoped, it’s okay to be uncertain about your next step.

As I kept driving home I just started to pray and ask for clarity about the choices I was facing- because at the the end of the day that’s the best advice I can get. And y’all, the Lord provides. We have to believe God is good, even when we can’t see what exactly he his doing in our specific situation.

If you’re also in a season of feeling like your plan is up in the air, learning to trusting in His plan gives you steadiness. He is in control. As I was sitting in bed outlining this post I started thinking about the Hillsong song None But Jesus, the lines:

In the quiet, in the stillness
I know that you are God

In the chaos, in confusion
I know you’re sovereign still

felt like such a great picture of what I’m trying to articulate this week. In the confusing seasons and the moments when we dig deep to find stillness, the truth of our Lord always rings true.


This week I’ll leave you with a C. S. Lewis quote from the book Mere Christianity. Lewis where he talks about the idea that we are a living house, and God is doing renovations on us – but we don’t know what the final product will be.

“Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on; you knew that those jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make any sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of – throwing out a new wing here, putting on an extra floor there, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were being made into a decent little cottage: but He is building a palace. He intends to come and live in it Himself.”

If the path of your life is clear and you feel like you’re driving in daylight, that’s awesome. If you feel like things aren’t so clear and the turns you’re taking don’t seem to make sense don’t hesitate to hush the opinions people are throwing your way (or that you ask for too often, if you’re me) and make that time for stillness.

Having faith and trusting that He is in control is my best guarantee for hope and peace when I can’t see past my high-beams, and I hope it can be for you too.

 

 

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Seasons

Growing up I learned to understand seasons as times of the year when the weather would change. Snow would melt and spring would come, then hot summer days would fade to autumn as the leaves would fall from the trees. Sometimes seasons would be measured by school calendars. The end of a school year was the summer and the fall signalled a new year and a new grade.

We define our lives around the seasons. New Year’s rings in new chances, fresh starts, and hope for what the future holds.

Lately I’ve been thinking a bit different about what seasons mean to me. How seasons of life aren’t necessarily defined by the changing weather. Maybe it is because life after graduating has given a new perspective and my days aren’t defined by “fall term”, “winter term” and “summer”. In short, my life is no longer scheduled into trimesters and seasons feel like they are less about the time of year and more about what we are going through or dealing with.

Seasons of our lives sometimes have different timelines. We learn, we grow, we’re challenged. Sometimes we find ourselves in seasons that aren’t so pretty. Or we see people we know in seasons of joy and wonder why our’s feels so mundane.

I’m a firm believer that seasons of our lives happen for a reason. As the unofficial queen of FOMO (fear of missing out) I know sometimes it is hard to see other people in “better”, “easier” or more fruitful seasons and wonder why you can’t always live in those seasons too.

Why does life have to be so hard? Why do we face seasons of failure, of loss, of heartache, of distance in relationships or struggles of identity? I don’t have answers to all those big questions but I believe that the challenging seasons we walk through teach us important lessons.

As someone who has been lucky to have experienced a very wonderful season of life this winter I can tell you that FOMO – no matter how good things are – is still real. But I’ve learned that comparing ourselves to others, no matter how happy we are is always a losing cause.

Our lives are our stories, and we should be focused on writing our own to the best of our abilities. Don’t worry about who is ahead of you, who is traveling to cooler places than you (yes even while living abroad you can have travel FOMO, wild I know). Most importantly, making sure we are being happy for people in their own seasons of success even if ours is more challenging. If we compare ourselves to others, get insecure about not measuring up we get lost and create conflict that doesn’t need to be there.

You don’t need to measure up and neither of the people in your life. If we can learn to embrace our good seasons and difficult ones and simultaneously cheer on our friends we can build each other up – and then we all win.

Trust me, after a winter in Florida I’m already afraid of my next Canadian winter. But I think it is important to embrace the seasons of life we find ourselves in – learn to navigate and appreciate them for what they are without being fearful of what is coming next or wishing them away.

My most recent season of life has been one of a lot of growth. Pushing myself in new ways. It was a season of emotional powerlifting. A season where I didn’t paint so much. A season I leaned to me more flexible and have faith things will work out. It was a season of overwhelming joy.

Coming home marks a transition into a new season – I’m not quite sure what it holds yet but I know that I will make the best of it by honouring that it is my season and it doesn’t need to be held up next or compared to anyone else’s. No FOMO needs to happen because the only way we miss out on the seasons we are in is if we focus more on what other people are doing than on us.

If you’re in a hard season know that you are growing tremendously and everything will be okay, if you are in a season of joy appreciate each moment and don’t worry about when a colder might hit. If you’re like me, and you’re transitioning between seasons into something a bit unknown stay hopeful for what is coming next and have faith that you are where you are meant to be.

YOLO

This is the most impromptu post I’ve written yet, but my dear readers my family is visiting me in Florida this week!! And I haven’t had the time to sit down and write until now, 11:41 pm on the day I usually share a post with you. I was going to just write this week off – but I’ve had something on my mind and on my heart lately so I’m going to see what I write for you in the next 19 minutes. Fingers crossed that it is coherent.

What’s been on my mind? Well, I’m what you might call an over-thinker. I worry. I stress. I make little things much bigger than they need to. But lately I’ve been doing a good job at not doing that. Being in a new place, having totally different experiences out of my comfort-zone is the kind of position you’d think would add to the stress.

But it actually hasn’t.

Whenever I go somewhere like a new city it’s often up in the air if I’ll get to revisit it. And I don’t just mean in this trip, I mean there is no guarantee that I’ll make my way back to Tampa or Miami again. So I make the most of my experiences, and I’ve been trying not to think too hard about it. Get the burger. Get the ice cream. Say yes to trying new things. You only live once (okay I know YOLO is very 2010 but my Canadian heart loves Drake and it’s just really fitting).

I still have my moments when I second guess myself, or I feel indecisive (impulse purchasing tacky souvenirs is my biggest struggle.) But I’ve found if I don’t give myself the chance to second guess myself and go for things before I think too hard about it I’m golden. The more I just say “yes” and try things, or say “no” and give myself permission not to have to try everything (but be at peace with the choice) the less stressed I get.

I’m not trying to say you shouldn’t think at all, but I’ve loved letting myself relax a little more. Going with the flow. Embracing not making plans and learning to love spontaneous adventures. Taking advantage of the moments in front of you and appreciating that if this is your only chance to live that moment you should do your best to make the most of it. Sure, I could give you examples of impromptu trips to Miami or Orlando, but it you don’t need to be in some glamorous tropical city and to make the most of the moments you are living in.

Maybe it is just treating yourself. Maybe it is making the time to do something you love or connecting with someone you love. Maybe your YOLO moment is learning to trust yourself a little more and let go of stress; giving yourself permission to indulge or be imperfect.

Trust me, when you learn to give yourself a break and let go of the little things you over-think about you’ll give yourself so much more time and energy to make the most of your life. And you’ll breathe a little easier.

So remember, you only live once.

Your Love Is Bright As Ever

To be incredibly honest, I went to my favourite coffee shop yesterday with the intention of writing today’s blog post. I sat down in a cozy window seat ,with a tasty scone and a journal – and I planned out almost 3 months worth of post ideas. I even complied a list of inspiring friends to ask to guest write about topics that they are passionate about. But I didn’t get a single idea for today.

I procrastinated until my drink was done and left without this post even started. So last night, as I sat at my kitchen table after dinner, racking my brain for what to write about the song XO (John Mayer cover – an important detail, of course) came on my Spotify shuffle and I heard the opening lines “Your love is bright as ever // Even in the shadows” and I knew what to write…

 

Your Love Still Works

In addition to visiting my favourite coffee shop, I also went to the dentist yesterday – it was a super eventful Tuesday. As I was sitting in the chair talking to the dental hygienist I looked down at my little white Ked shoes and noticed how dirty they have gotten recently. They need to go in the wash or get replaced or something, but for now they still work. They get me where were I need to go and prevent me from going outside barefoot (most of the time). They get the job done, and this realization reminded me of a blog post I read on TWLOHA’s website earlier this year based on this tweet by their founder Jamie Tworkowski:

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I love this idea. I love this phrase. And as we enter a season that celebrates love and light and joy and peace, while navigating a world that can be full of hurt and sorrow and disappointment, I think it’s good to keep in mind. My Ked’s might not be the same as they were when they first came out of the box, but they have character, and they still work perfectly fine.

This year has been full of personal, local and global hurtles for just about everyone I know – but our love still works. Despite things we have faced this year, we can choose to be still be loving. We can still extend kindness to our neighbours, we can still be gracious and understanding to people who have hurt us, we can still be inclusive and open and soft to the world.

 

Be Kind To One Another

The talk show host Ellen Degeneres always ends her show by reminding her audience to “be kind to one another” and I want to do the same thing with this post. I know the holidays can quickly turn into a holi-daze of running around town trying to get through our shopping lists and prepare for gatherings.

How many Christmas movies show people fighting over the last action figure for their kid or last honey ham at the grocery store to take home to their family? Sometimes we get so swept up in getting things ready for the holidays we forget to extend patience and understanding to the people around us. It can be a stressful time and that’s super understandable – but as we focus on these wonderful things lets get so dazed that we forget to be kind to one another.

 

Merry & Bright

As snow falls become imminent, and White Christmases (or which ever holiday you celebrate!) are nearing, many of us are entering this season excited for the chance to celebrate the holidays. However, it’s been a heavy year for many and maybe it’s hard to forget about realities that might be weighing on you. I’ll encourage you, in this season of love and peace and light, to remember that despite the struggles we’ve been through this year your love is bright as ever, and desperately needed in homes and communities wherever you are in the world.

I’ll close today with wise words from Mother Teresa; “If you want to change the world, go home and love your family”.

From me to you, Happy Wednesday!

 

 


P.S. An exciting note about this post is that the organization I mentioned above, To Write Love On Her Arm’s (TWLOHA), is an incredible non-profit organization in Florida that works to present hope to people struggling with depression, addiction, self-injury, and suicide – and next month I get to move Florida to be a part of their internship program until April!

Their work has been a huge inspiration to me, they believe : “You were created to love and be loved. People need other people. Your story is important. Better days are ahead. Hope and help are real”.  I’m thrilled to be working for an organization that is an internationally recognized leader in suicide prevention and a source of hope, encouragement, and support for people worldwide.

If you’re at all interested in supporting this (unpaid) internship experience you can find more info here: https://www.gofundme.com/kaitlyns-twloha-internship

For Allison

At the beginning of the year, on a blustery cold day, I went to Balzac’s for one of many coffee dates I had this winter with my friend Allison.

We talked school, stress, heartache, and the future. Two women on the cusp of graduation feeling that “wow everyone has a job, is getting married, or going to grad school and I have no clue what my plan is” feeling.

It was a conversation that stuck with me because as I told her of the hopes and dreams I had for life after school, of programs to apply for, I said “I would really love to go do that, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up”. And I’ll always remember that she said, “But why not? Why not get your hopes up?”. This week’s post is inspired by her enthusiasm for life and her encouragement to get my hopes up.

Unlikely Dreams

Sometimes we dream unlikely dreams. And it’s easy to say “I would like that to happen but I’m going to assume it won’t because I don’t want to feel letdown when things don’t work out”. That is the safe thing to do, it keeps you from being vulnerable.

Brené Brown’s TED Talk (guys she just has realllllly amazing TED Talks – okay?) The price of invulnerability talks about why people avoid getting our hopes up and relates perfectly with today’s topic.

She speaks to the fact that “It is much easier to live disappointed than it is to feel disappointment… We sidestep getting excited about something, because we’re not sure it’s actually going to happen”. When we avoid getting our hopes up, and avoid being vulnerable to our hopes and dreams we aren’t really protecting ourselves from the disappointment.

Similar to this avoidance of vulnerability Brown also talks about “numbing” emotions, to avoid getting hurt. However, she argues it is problematic because “.. you cannot selectively numb emotion. When we numb the dark emotion, when we numb vulnerability and fear, and the shame of not being good enough, we by default numb joy. We cannot selectively just numb the dark emotions.” So essentially, if we don’t let ourselves get excited about things we do avoid the feeling of being let down, but we also avoid the excitement about cool opportunities life presents us.

Sprinting into Hope

It might be vulnerable to invest your hope into something or someone, but the truth is certainty about things evades our lives and we might never know exactly what we can get our hopes up about. Sometimes we get true signs of confirmation, like an acceptance letter that tells us we got into the program we wanted, but other times it is not so clear. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut and let yourself get excited about things.

Don’t be afraid to get your hopes up. What is the worst that will happen? You might get hurt but you will move on and find something new to be excited about. Life is good, life is exciting and full of amazing things.

To me, it’s scarier not to get my hopes up. If you don’t invest in relationships? Sure you completely avoid the possibility of getting hurt but you also avoid the possibility of community, love, and worthwhile friendships. Not pursing dreams because you’re afraid they won’t workout the way you want? It avoids the disappointment but also the possible joy and success of putting yourself out there.

If you’re reading this and you’re thinking this is completely unrealistic because there are things we really can’t predict and sometimes it doesn’t make sense to get your hopes up – you’re right. Maybe it doesn’t always make sense, but I would rather it be a habit to be optimistic and occasionally try to not get my hopes up about something than form a habit of saying “I would really love to go do that, but I’m trying not to get my hopes up”.

Love is an Action

Another thing I love about Al is that she not only encouraged me to get my hopes up about the things I wanted to be excited about (but was afraid to be), but she got her hopes up for me too. When we talk about the future she talks about those dreams as if they will really come true. And if I point out to her that the future is uncertain she tells me we’re planning on those things to happen because she believes in me.

It can be hard to be vulnerable for yourself, let alone be willing to open your heart for the benefit of others, so I am very grateful for her. There is a Jamie Tworkowski quite I really like, that goes:  “You’ll need coffee shops and sunsets and road trips. Airplanes and passports and new songs and old songs, but people more than anything else. You will need other people and you will need to be that other person to someone else, a living, breathing, screaming invitation to believe better things.” Al, I’m lucky to call you a friend and beyond thankful to have you in my life blessing me with your encouragement, love, and challenging me to believe in better things and to be the best version of myself I can be.

“Love ain’t a thing, Love is a verb”

The Gratitude Project

Welcome back to another week and another post on the blog! Today I am excited to write about the importance of expressing gratitude, how it can make you happier, strengthen your relationships, and how I’m planning on incorporating it into my life in the coming year.

Lessons on Giving Thanks 

When I was in grade seven I had an incredible teacher named Mrs. Fleisig. She was my English teacher, but she was much more than that. She’s one of those teachers that really shaped my life, enough that she’s still inspiring and impacting me 10 years after I was in her class.

In the fall, around thanksgiving, she asked our class to think about somebody we were grateful for. She asked us to write down why we were thankful for that person and to think deeply about what they had done in our lives to impact us and what qualities they possessed that we admired.

Then she asked us to write them a thank you letter outlining all of that, to share how we appreciated them and express gratitude for their influence in our lives. The assignment was then to deliver or mail our letters.

I had so much fun with it I think I actually did three. I can still remember the reaction of friends when they got them because it was so unexpected and that’s when I got hooked on thank you notes.

Gratitude & Attitude

It’s fantastic how simple it is to let someone know that you value them and are thankful for them, and the positive impact they have had on you. And how great does it feel to be on the receiving end of that kind of gratitude? Telling people how much they mean to you not only makes you feel more postive and thankful but it also reinforces relationships because you’re telling people you value them.

An article called Giving thanks can make you happier, published by Harvard Health Publications at Harvard Medical School suggested that “In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships”.

The article also suggested that writing thank-you notes, thanking someone mentally when you can’t send them a note, keeping a gratitude journal, counting your blessings, prayer, and meditation are a few ways that people could cultivate gratitude in their daily lives.

A media production group called SoulPancake makes inspirational videos. One of my favourites is An Experiment in Gratitude | The Science of Happiness which uses the research from the Giving thanks can make you happier article and turns it into a visual experience. Their video shows an experiment with a similar activity as my school assignment but rather than mailing the letters the person calls the person they wrote the letter to and read it to them. If you have seven spare minutes in your day and are in need of a smile I would highly recommend checking it out!

Taking Stock of What You’re Grateful For

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, and to lose perspective on life sometimes, but one of my favourite ways to gain a better perspective or to manage feeling stressed is to think about all the good things in my life.

There is a blog post I love called On Thanksgiving: What I Feel vs What I Know. It’s a poem that has stretched my perspective on the knowledge of goodness in your life when you feel like you’ve got nothing going for you. It reminds me that no matter what I’m feeling, and especially when I’m feeling down, to take stock of the goodness in my life. My favourite lines are:

So do not despair.

For there is more than what we feel.

There are things missing in every single room.

But there is even more not missing.

So don’t be blinded by the ghosts.

Don’t let them glow brighter than your friends.

Don’t let them glow brighter than your family.

Be present.

Fight to be present.

Even when we feel sad and overwhelmed, our lives are full of goodness. Being intentional about remembering that is very important and has a big impact on our general happiness.

Earlier this summer I bought a ring at a little beach shop near my cottage with 10 little cut out hearts in it. If I’m having a particularly hard day, or even just having a moment of feeling overwhelmed I try to stop myself and before I get lost in the stress of it all I fiddle with the ring and think of 10 good things.

Stopping yourself from focusing on the negative and affirming that the good things in your day, week, or life outweigh the negative can have a huge impact on your perspective and help you to better manage frustrating situations from a place of love and grace.

The Project

If you’ve made it this far into the post you’ve probably picked up on the fact that I’m a big fan expressing gratitude. I like making room in my bullet journal (or any type of planner or notebook) to make daily lists of all the people, things or events I can think of that made me happy that day.

I think showing gratitude through thank you notes is a wonderful way to encourage others and make yourself feel good by taking on a perspective of thankfulness SO with this post I’m going to kick off something I’m calling The Gratitude Project. For the next year I’m going to write a thank you note every day.

Making lists of things and people you’re thankful for is all good but I want to go one step further. The thank you note project will encourage mindfulness of what I am thankful for while also showing gratitude to people who brighten up my life and letting them know how much I value them and the little and big things they do to contribute to my life.

They might range from notes to cards to emails to phone calls, but from now until August 2nd 2018 I am planning to make a point of saying thank you to someone everyday. That is a lot of thank you notes, but I’m confident I’m not going to run out of people or things to be thankful for.

And this is YOUR invitation to join the party! Do you have:

  • A favourite prof who had an incredibly positive impact on you?
  • A family member who you can always count on for support?
  • A coworker who embodies teamwork and is always willing to help you out?
  • A friend who recently got you a spontaneous gift?
  • A parent who lets you borrow their car on a very regular basis?
  • An elementary school teacher who you still tell stories about because they were great?
  • A friend who is a major source of encouragement in your life?
  • A neighbour who helps you out with shoveling snow or mowing the lawn?

If you said yes to any of those, or if you didn’t but you have someone else in mind who you’re thankful for, try writing one thank you card to that person.

Here is to 365 days of saying thank you!

Cultivating Goodness

Lately I have felt that the season of life I am in is focused on cultivating goodness. What I mean by that is that I am intentional about surrounding myself with things that bring me joy and I am conscious of recognizing and being thankful for the abundant blessings in my life. I like the word “cultivating” because it represents doing something actively to nurture or help something grow. It represents intentional actions to plant things into my life that will make it blossom.

The book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up talks about this concept in the context of cleaning your house, you pick up items and ask “does this bring me joy?” and unless the answer is yes, or it is a necessary item, you get rid of it. I’ve been trying to apply that idea to my life by filling my days with things that bring me joy: investing in people who make me feel good, volunteering my time for projects that stimulate my creativity, buying WAY too many plants to live on my window sill, and thrift shopping a lot because its the cheapest form of retail therapy. It’s also helpful to remind myself that when things don’t go as I planned, that doesn’t necessarily mean that things are going wrong. It is easy to have days that make you feel defeated or lose your optimism but it’s important to believe that in the grand scheme of things, life is good; to paraphrase Daniel 3:18, “And if not, He is still good.”

For myself, gratitude is a major part of ‘cultivating goodness’, because as nice as it is to buy lots of cute succulents and interesting books and go for coffee dates with friends  – that isn’t going to make your life good. Your life is already good. To quote the epic 1993 film Cool Runnings “a gold medal is a wonderful thing. But if you’re not enough without one, you’ll never be enough with one.” I think the same concept applies to filling your life with good things; life is already full of so much goodness, and you have to be able to recognize and appreciate what you already have – or else the things you add to your life with will soon be forgotten. If you don’t trust me, in her TED Talk, The Price of Invulnerability , Dr. Brené Brown says, to that live a remarkable life we must “practice gratitude and honour what is ordinary about our lives because that is what is truly extraordinary”.

When I’m having a bad day or I’m not feeling like myself, I find it helpful to catalogue all the things that bring me joy. It’s a reminder that the good always outweigh the bad in life, and it gives me a fresh perspective on staying positive. I have a running list in the Notes app on my phone of things that make me happy, and whenever I notice something new, I add it to the list. I always start with the people who fill my life to the brim with love and work outward to the little things I am thankful for. The list I have is long enough for multiple blog posts of its own, but some examples are:

  • Sitting on park benches reading books and soaking up sunshine
  • Drinking vanilla ice coffee
  • High waisted jeans
  • The smell of cilantro
  • Friends that make me laugh
  • The privilege to have free time to volunteer for things I care about
  • Making dinner with my mom
  • Bright pink manicures
  • Reading books that comfort me, give me hope, and inspire me to think differently
  • Forests of Forget-Me-Nots
  • The smell of lilacs blooming
  • The taste of lime
  • The colour cadmium yellow
  • Birds singing
  • Sunsets
  • Singing in my car with friends
  • Singing badly in my car alone
  • Drinking tea in bed
  • Coral lipstick
  • Bubble baths
  • Hearing songs in public that remind you of old memories and make you smile from ear to ear
  • Dance parties
  • Scones
  • Watercolour painting
  • Cozy rainy days
  • Camp fires on the beach

As the landscape of my life changes I’ve begun to realize the importance of having faith that things are going to work out the way they should and recognizing that every day doesn’t need to be the happiest day, for it to still be saturated in goodness.

I know that I am writing from a very fortunate place; I am lucky to have a beautiful life and a lot of wonderful things going for me, I have an amazing family and lovely friends and I just graduated from university. But trust me, 2017 has handed me a lot of tough days and the best way I’ve learned to manage them is by remembering that the good always outweighs the bad. Even on my worst day, I know that there are things to be thankful for.

This week I encourage you to try making your own list of things that bring you joy and be intentional to notice the little things that make you happy, because when you add them all up you’ll see even more clearly how good life is.