Falling Apart Together

I was riding in the car with my family last weekend and my brother and I were playing around with the idea that commiserating with people is a bit like being “co-miserable”. The act of commiserating with friends when life feels like it is unravelling is a sure way to bond with people. The stressful moments of dress rehearsals when things are going wrong before … Continue reading Falling Apart Together

Defensive Living

One of the harder things to accept about being open and vulnerable is that we can still get hurt. To be totally honest, it is sort of the ugly side of vulnerability that we like to glaze over in the self-help books. But it is true, we can open up, be vulnerable and fall on our ass. Yet, despite that reality, I believe it is valuable to keep making the choice to be open to that possibility anyway. Continue reading Defensive Living

All The Lonely People

When we find ourselves feeling lonely it’s not a simple as not having friends around. Loneliness and community might seem like opposites, but we don’t simply choose one or the other, we have a lot of other choices that we come to first. Such as choosing fear of not being accepted or liked over being vulnerable. Or choosing to isolate ourselves from others. It’s smaller, everyday choices that shape what our relationships look like.  Continue reading All The Lonely People

There’s Power In Love

That instinct to see the best in a person? What if we extended that kind of care to everyone? That deliriously in love feeling that makes you wanna dance to work? Can we find that through loving our neighbours and coworkers and friends as generously as we love our significant others? I think we can. I believe when we learn what kind of love we are capable of we can try to extended that in all areas of our lives. Continue reading There’s Power In Love

Happy To Be Here

Today I’m writing to you about some things I’ve learned in the past year about being present and lessons I plan to carry with me through this year. We often start New Years with resolutions for being the biggest and best versions of ourselves. We have our eyes on the prize of perfecting ourselves, to take ourselves to a place where we will be happier, … Continue reading Happy To Be Here